If you're reading this, chances are you've felt the crushing weight of perfectionism. "Trying" might seem like an uphill battle, a constant struggle against an impossible standard. I can relate. In my own journey, I've grappled with the misconception that success is solely measured by flawless execution, overlooking the value of progress along the way.
So, what changed?
Firstly, I came to understand that this mindset isn't entirely our fault. We've been shaped by systems and environments that often only reward exceptional outcomes. Growing up in an education system fixated on top performers, I absorbed the message that my worth hinged on my achievements. This high-pressure environment fostered self-doubt and anxiety, perpetuating a cycle of perfectionism.
However, I'm not here to assign blame. I recognize the complexities at play, acknowledging that our education systems are molded by the demands of capitalism. But realizing that this pattern wasn't solely my doing was the first step toward breaking free from its grip.
What followed was perhaps even more pivotal:
Acknowledging that while it wasn't entirely my fault, it was my responsibility.
I decided to rewrite the script of my life. I embraced uncertainty and vulnerability, stepping into the unknown with courage. And let me tell you, the results have been nothing short of miraculous. I've started writing blog posts regularly, launching a YouTube channel, and trying so many more new activities without worrying about being the best. And guess what? I've never felt more alive.
Venturing into uncharted territory has been a master class in humility and growth. Each blog post I write isn't just words on a page—it's an anchor for someone out there. It's a chance to connect, to be seen and heard. And that has to be worth more than all the likes and shares in the world.
I'll admit, that even writing this post has been a journey in itself. Despite my efforts, I've struggled stumbled, and nearly given up more times than I can count. It's a reminder that I, too, grapple with the discomfort of uncertainty. And I've additionally observed that many of my peers, particularly women, share this struggle—proof of the pervasive influence of societal expectations from an early age.
But I refuse to let perfectionism win. I refuse to let fear hold me back.
Because here's the thing: life is messy. It's chaotic and unpredictable and utterly beautiful. And it's in the messiness that we find our true selves. The alternative is gathering the crumbs left behind and convincing ourselves that it is enough.
So to the individual reading this striving for personal and societal growth, let me remind you that true self-improvement is only possible after self-acceptance. And true self-acceptance occurs only after embracing our imperfections.
So, if you're ever in doubt, remember:
It's not just safe—it's liberating—to be seen trying.
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